Anger is an ordinary human emotion we all experience at times. It can be motivational, help us move towards positive change, and assist us in meeting short and long term goals. Anger also may be terrifying and causing fear, destroying families, careers, and lives. People must take responsibility. Being able to harness the causes of anger, learning effective methods for coping with anger, and at all times managing anger is crucial to guarantee that it is a constructive emotion instead of destructive.
Becoming aware of the causes of anger may appear to be easy enough because it happens to be one of the best emotions to express. Because destructive anger has a tendency to progress so rapidly, it must be observed, the person intending to conrol anger must be conscious of their reactionary behavior and practice in order achieve awareness before damage is done.
Awareness starts by concentrating on physical changes. Anger causes a rise in in heartbeat rate; tightness in areas of the body like the chest, jaw, and neck; color changes to the skin most notably on the face; and feeling as if the temperature has gotten warmer.
Once an individual recognizes her unique physical responses to anger-provoking circumstances, she can be taught techniques that are effective for coping with anger. Methods to keep one in a mentally relaxed state can assist in deescalating the anger of the situation. For example, slowing and deepening one's breathing permits the body to re-oxygenate and diffuse the "fight or flight" response. Once the body has returned to a "low-stress" state, the mind can identify internal and external triggers and design alternative and constructive reactions.
When annoyance and anger are experienced too often, is too intense, or is expressed inappropriately, it becomes a problem. Effectively managing anger needs one to become mindful of body changes before the anger escalates. Employing techniques to lessen the "fight or flight" response can help people identify and diffuse all of their anger triggers. Sometimes these techniques alone, however, are not enough. If that is the case, a licensed professional counselor can walk individuals through the steps of mitigating their destructive anger responses, and modifying their enraged behavior that results from anger.
Becoming aware of the causes of anger may appear to be easy enough because it happens to be one of the best emotions to express. Because destructive anger has a tendency to progress so rapidly, it must be observed, the person intending to conrol anger must be conscious of their reactionary behavior and practice in order achieve awareness before damage is done.
Awareness starts by concentrating on physical changes. Anger causes a rise in in heartbeat rate; tightness in areas of the body like the chest, jaw, and neck; color changes to the skin most notably on the face; and feeling as if the temperature has gotten warmer.
Once an individual recognizes her unique physical responses to anger-provoking circumstances, she can be taught techniques that are effective for coping with anger. Methods to keep one in a mentally relaxed state can assist in deescalating the anger of the situation. For example, slowing and deepening one's breathing permits the body to re-oxygenate and diffuse the "fight or flight" response. Once the body has returned to a "low-stress" state, the mind can identify internal and external triggers and design alternative and constructive reactions.
When annoyance and anger are experienced too often, is too intense, or is expressed inappropriately, it becomes a problem. Effectively managing anger needs one to become mindful of body changes before the anger escalates. Employing techniques to lessen the "fight or flight" response can help people identify and diffuse all of their anger triggers. Sometimes these techniques alone, however, are not enough. If that is the case, a licensed professional counselor can walk individuals through the steps of mitigating their destructive anger responses, and modifying their enraged behavior that results from anger.
About the Author:
Tia Parsley is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor with AchieveBalance.org in The Woodlands, TX. She has over 10 years of counseling individuals and families with emotional issues like managing anger. Individuals who are coping with anger often find that there is an enraged behavioral response aspect that is hard to control. The impulsive response is the "fight or flight" instinct, and here are insights on how best to deal with it.