Thursday, February 17, 2011

Ideas To Help A Friend Who Lost Someone

By Charles W. Hamilton


The children behave totally different as compared to the grownups or other family members in case of any death in the family. The loss and grief is part and parcel and life brings sorrow along with the happiness. However, it has been noticed and well established that the children have a very different attitude in case of moments of grief and this can prove very bad for them. They might feel insecure and lack any reactions sometimes in such situations.

It is our moral duty to show our kindness and guide them properly. They should be taught such that they can bear the truths of the life and handle the moments of grief.

Fake stories will make them more anxious and nervous. Instead, be honest and communicate with them in a simple way. Share their feelings and let them ask questions. While answering their questions, try to be straightforward and uncomplicated.

The children are too much afraid of death and hence don't give them a lot of information that becomes difficult for them to handle. The extra information can lead them to stress and anxiety. They may loose their temper and nervous breakdown can also result.

Keep your daily routine and activities same as you used to do before the incident. This will help them to react natural and they will heal in time. Try to spend time with them and let them open to you. Some youngsters show reluctance in expressing their emotions but communication will definitely open doors.

A better communication and proper guidance will automatically make them behave in a natural way and they will learn a lot.

The various events like the birthday or the death anniversary can reawaken the child's sorrow and remind him of the event, in this situation your presence can handle this sensitive issue.

The moments of grief can be again reminded by them and they can get sad, you should keep in mind that don't use the harsh language and listen to them completely and then give them a shoulder of care and affection.




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