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Changing your life is hard. It's very tough. I mean, extraordinarily hard.
For anyone who really has seriously attempted to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come along for the ride with deciding to live in another way. You are continually tested, you fail time upon time, and it's very tricky to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
Nonetheless it does not necessarily have to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they don't know how to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They think that because negativity is occuring that they have got to be doing some things wrong. No! Not remotely. Actually if you're fighting and it hurts a little, you are doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through huge changes, you're going to come across some gruelling obstacles. Pain is going to come out to play, your interior critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is perfectly ok! It really means you are heading in the proper direction. Don't declare failure now when you're hurting. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the best way to get near enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are constructing a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you've got to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you don't, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have got to get sufficiently close to the pain and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You have got to be pleased to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and feelings and emotions swirl around you without taking you totally out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes some skill and a lot of practice, but if you can truly spend a decent amount of time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone who really has seriously attempted to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come along for the ride with deciding to live in another way. You are continually tested, you fail time upon time, and it's very tricky to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
Nonetheless it does not necessarily have to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they don't know how to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They think that because negativity is occuring that they have got to be doing some things wrong. No! Not remotely. Actually if you're fighting and it hurts a little, you are doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through huge changes, you're going to come across some gruelling obstacles. Pain is going to come out to play, your interior critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is perfectly ok! It really means you are heading in the proper direction. Don't declare failure now when you're hurting. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the best way to get near enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are constructing a new life, old things really tend to trickle out and you've got to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you don't, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have got to get sufficiently close to the pain and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You have got to be pleased to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and feelings and emotions swirl around you without taking you totally out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes some skill and a lot of practice, but if you can truly spend a decent amount of time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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