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So I hate to break it to you, but I've never actually hugged a porcupine.
But if you follow the analogy I'm going to make...I have.
So bear with me for a minute while I explain away.
Relationships are complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
Then throw in people's past experiences into the pot with a dash of ego and we have even more of a miracle that we can get along.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We can't do this thing called life all by ourselves. We have to have people there to support us when we are down and when we really need a helping hand.
However, that takes some serious vulnerability.
It takes breaking down those walls in front of someone else and being able to show them exactly who you are. You don't censor it. You don't hide parts. You just go...this is exactly who I am.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give someone the opportunity to love you just the way you are and just the way you aren't.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We are all thirsting for a type of love that allows us to feel truly loved.
People can be pretty prickly at times...like a porcupine...especially when their lives get really hard.
Hug them.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's true love.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's what life is all about.
That's what we all really deserve.
But if you follow the analogy I'm going to make...I have.
So bear with me for a minute while I explain away.
Relationships are complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
Then throw in people's past experiences into the pot with a dash of ego and we have even more of a miracle that we can get along.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We can't do this thing called life all by ourselves. We have to have people there to support us when we are down and when we really need a helping hand.
However, that takes some serious vulnerability.
It takes breaking down those walls in front of someone else and being able to show them exactly who you are. You don't censor it. You don't hide parts. You just go...this is exactly who I am.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give someone the opportunity to love you just the way you are and just the way you aren't.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We are all thirsting for a type of love that allows us to feel truly loved.
People can be pretty prickly at times...like a porcupine...especially when their lives get really hard.
Hug them.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's true love.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's what life is all about.
That's what we all really deserve.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Kindness Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/kindness-quotes/ or these Sympathy Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/sympathy-quotes/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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