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I really despair at times when I go to meetings and listen to other adults talking about their perception of managing kids' behaviour! It's quite unbelievable how far adults have relinquished their rights and responsibilities in checking, guiding and dealing with kids...
It's considered unfashionable and not quite nice, but what we're actually talking about is adults disciplining children. Yes, it's not politically correct and considered unpleasant these days, but...
The long and short of it is that adults really have got to start behaving the way adults should and making sure that children learn how to behave properly. That way they'll learn how their world works and be able to mature with confidence.
I know it's probably not considered 'nice' but this means adults putting consequences into place when kids behave badly. It's essential for kids to realise that's how society works - well how it should work!!
And another thing... This unpleasant discipline thing results in children being increasingly confident, relaxed and happy. It enables them to be independent and successful in their world!
So what's brought this latest rant about the world of kids and adults - there's always something behind these stories...
I attended a meeting about one of the kids in my class - major behaviour problems that have largely been resolved and he's due to go to senior school in a few months...
This little guy has made enormous improvements - the adults at the school have learned to manage his behaviour and he knows he can't behave the previous way without there being consequences. He's great about all this new discipline stuff - relaxed and managing confidently and independently. But, as is often the case, there are still problems at break times when there is less supervision. But, he knows the rules and what will happen if he behaves badly.
And it's our job to inform the senior school that there have to be consequences if he behaves inappropriately at break times. Their reaction?
'Well, he could be sent to a designated room but I don't think he would like it!'
Oh dear me!! HE ISN'T SUPPOSED TO ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE!!! He'd be going there as a consequence for bad behaviour so liking it isn't what he's supposed to do...
Where has the idea come from that if kids behave badly then something pleasant should happen?? It's totally and utterly rubbish!! No wonder that adults have lost the plot so completely when dealing (or not dealing!) with kids' behaviour problems...
Rant nearly over! Seriously though, anyone can learn to manage kids' behaviour effectively and confidently - and to issue consequences that will impact positively on their behaviour. It's not difficult - learn the techniques, practise them until they're second nature and use them with total consistency! That's it...
It's considered unfashionable and not quite nice, but what we're actually talking about is adults disciplining children. Yes, it's not politically correct and considered unpleasant these days, but...
The long and short of it is that adults really have got to start behaving the way adults should and making sure that children learn how to behave properly. That way they'll learn how their world works and be able to mature with confidence.
I know it's probably not considered 'nice' but this means adults putting consequences into place when kids behave badly. It's essential for kids to realise that's how society works - well how it should work!!
And another thing... This unpleasant discipline thing results in children being increasingly confident, relaxed and happy. It enables them to be independent and successful in their world!
So what's brought this latest rant about the world of kids and adults - there's always something behind these stories...
I attended a meeting about one of the kids in my class - major behaviour problems that have largely been resolved and he's due to go to senior school in a few months...
This little guy has made enormous improvements - the adults at the school have learned to manage his behaviour and he knows he can't behave the previous way without there being consequences. He's great about all this new discipline stuff - relaxed and managing confidently and independently. But, as is often the case, there are still problems at break times when there is less supervision. But, he knows the rules and what will happen if he behaves badly.
And it's our job to inform the senior school that there have to be consequences if he behaves inappropriately at break times. Their reaction?
'Well, he could be sent to a designated room but I don't think he would like it!'
Oh dear me!! HE ISN'T SUPPOSED TO ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE!!! He'd be going there as a consequence for bad behaviour so liking it isn't what he's supposed to do...
Where has the idea come from that if kids behave badly then something pleasant should happen?? It's totally and utterly rubbish!! No wonder that adults have lost the plot so completely when dealing (or not dealing!) with kids' behaviour problems...
Rant nearly over! Seriously though, anyone can learn to manage kids' behaviour effectively and confidently - and to issue consequences that will impact positively on their behaviour. It's not difficult - learn the techniques, practise them until they're second nature and use them with total consistency! That's it...
About the Author:
Liz Marsden is a behaviour management expert who deals daily with children considered unmanageable in their mainstream schools. She uses her skills to train teachers, student teachers, classroomroom assistants and parents to prevent behaviour problems and escalations. Visit Liz's website to learn about her easy to use strategies and make your classroom or home stress free, relaxed and productive.
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