Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Critical Steps to Rebuilding Self Confidence

By Jeremy Winters


What kind of outlook do you have? Do you have a tendency to look at the positive side of life or just the bad things? Did you know that having a negative mindset will crush your self esteem? Possessing low self worth has a tendency to undermine your accomplishments and almost everything you choose to do. No matter what you attempt to do, you are likely to never be very happy.

That is no way to live life. If you want to make the very most of your life, it is important to be free from your current pessimistic thinking patterns and raise your self esteem. Rebuilding self confidence is really the only way to leave your rut and find yourself appreciating all aspects of your life, the good as well as the bad.

Remember that rebuilding self confidence will only happen if you are willing to simply accept your current mindset and are willing to change it. For most people, the way they think affects the way in which they're going to think in the future. If they are typically happy individuals, they're very likely to recover from emotional stress and negative circumstances whereas an unhappy individual would likely need to fight considerably harder to become optimistic. You need to truly believe in yourself if you want to change. Here is exactly what you can do.

Think about your own weaknesses and strengths and don't compare yourself to different men and women. Odds are that when you think that someone else is better off, you're not seeing the complete picture. You may think another person has a much better life however you probably do not see the difficulties that they have. In public places, you might observe that they're extremely extroverted, appear to be good friends with absolutely everyone and are also in a position to buy lots of things that you don't have. But who knows what internal difficulties they may possibly have? They may have problems dealing with their finances and are really in debt by thousands of dollars. You just never know. Instead of being focused on other men and women, just focus on yourself.

Think of all the wonderful things in your life that you have. Do you genuinely have absolutely nothing to be thankful for? How about your health? Food to eat? A place to live? You are permitted to feel awful if something bad suddenly happens to you, so long as you don't dwell on the situation for a long time. Allow yourself a few days to recover, then drop the problem. Do not try to deny the problem or hide it, because doing this will only make you feel even worse later on. Acknowledging the issue is one of the first steps in rebuilding self confidence.

Often in life when something undesirable happens to you, something very good happens soon after. Life is actually a series of good and bad occasions, so although it looks like grey skies and burning infernos right now, those bright blue skies might simply be a few days away. Everything in life has a tendency to occur in patterns. If you're willing to simply wait it out, great things will eventually happen to you. Something that appears undesirable, like being fired, may really prove to be a very good thing in hindsight, as getting fired enables you to have far more free time to do what you actually want to do. Consequently, even when you are concerned something might not work out, just allow yourself enough time and it will.




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