Saturday, March 5, 2011

Points When Dealing With A Fuming Person

By Daniel D. Reynolds


Dealing with angry people is a very hard situation. Sometimes, it can get out of control and you end up in a very bad position or more likely at the hospital. Having a conversation with an angry person should be avoided at times but when you are faced with one, it is time that you put some action into your words. Here are some of the things that you should do when you have an angry person with you.

Never try to subdue a person who is angry with anger. Instead, be more calm and reserved and gather all the information needed. An angry person is a frustrated person. Get the reason behind his frustration and you will be able to help calm him down.

Listen carefully and learn why they are angry. Do not invalidate or belittle their feelings as it will only escalate their anger and would easily drive the conversation to a more violent road. It is much better that you acknowledge their feelings.

Alcohol should not be around when you have an angry or frustrated person with you. Alcohol is usually the culprit behind the violence surrounding an angry person. Drunk people have impaired judgement and would likely deduce to violence as means of expressing their inner anger.

At the streets, you should never try to do eye contact with people who are angry. It will only tell them that you are ready to fight them off and would be violent towards you. Lay your head down low and never make eye contact with them.

When these types of people want to get out of the place, do not try to hold them off. Do not add insult to injury by preventing them from going out from their current stressor. It is much better that you try to help them move out of the situation rather than prevent them from doing so.

Never try to interrupt the angry person when they are talking. When you do this, you will only heat things up even more and will most likely be hostile towards you. Wait for them to finish talking first then you can speak your piece.

Do not try to solve an emotional issue with logical reasoning. If you put an emotion into a logical issue it will only confuse them and would most likely be frustrated even more. Example, if you try to tell someone that what he is doing is wrong because it is not acceptable to society will only escalate his anger even more.




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