Wednesday, February 2, 2011

How To Get Your Life Back Using Anger Management Techniques

By Norman Carlton


The thing to know about anger management techniques is that you have more success when you use them a lot. That means that you need to change the way you think so that those techniques are in the front of your mind not the back. To make sure that the techniques are second nature, you need to use them every day. When they do take on the appearance of second nature, then they will have become habit. When they become a habit, then you will made a powerful and positive change. But in addition to the above, you also must act on the techniques and use them. In this article we are going to look at a few different anger management techniques that have proven to help in specific situations.

One great way to make your life better is to make use of the controlled deep breathing exercise. Its name should tell you what you need to know about this exercise. Your breathing becomes faster and shallow when your brain and body get excited. What you do is have the awareness that you are in a situation that is stressing you. This means that you can consciously work to regain control of your breathing. The most powerful form of this is breathing with your diaphragm, or your belly. You can practice it now, and you should, by expanding your belly on the inhale, and then just relax on the exhale. It is important, though, that you don't force your belly too much when you inhale.

One of the useful and powerful anger management techniques involves having awareness of the sources of anger, stress, deep frustrations, etc. Sometimes you will see these referred to as anger triggers, and it is critically important to know what they are and maintain awareness about them. If you can identify the triggers you will be better able to control your emotions when you encounter them. Sometimes you can avoid your triggers but you still need to train your body and mind to deal with the effects that the triggers have on you.

Your perspective and personal outlook are incredibly important for making sure that you get the most from your anger management techniques. Try to bring some humor back into your life--it helps a lot to look at things through humor colored lenses. Try to build the habit of taking a few critically important moments and stop and just look at what is going on. The things that usually set you off can be turned around if you make it a habit to take a breath and look for another perspective about it.

You can often use anger management techniques creatively. Don't ever forget that you are the one who controls how you see the world. You are the only one who has control over your reactions and your behaviors. Managing your anger doesn't mean that you need to have total control of your emotions. In fact, the opposite is true because you are the one who allows yourself the chance to use the techniques you have learned.




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