Saturday, April 9, 2011

The key to Improving Your Self-Esteem

By Dave Barty


Self-esteem is a state of mind. It could fill you with happiness, cheer, and confidence. It could also make you feel terrible about yourself. Self-esteem is like a battery. When the battery is charged, the person is positive; when the battery is low, the person is negative.

People with low self-esteem often don't do well in life. They'll approach most situations with not much confidence though they may be fully capable of achieving it. Self-belief is regarded as the foundation of self-esteem. It offers the extra confidence that one needs to know they can do anything.

So how do you develop self-belief in yourself? Do not mistake self-belief as self-importance. They are not the same. It is more like conceit, spawn over confidence and egotism, which doesn't result in personal success.

The right answer is positive self-esteem. This means that you see yourself as good and capable as anyone else, no better or worse, you are proud of who you are, and you approach everything with a positive outlook.

To do this, you must learn how to accept yourself unconditionally. You'll have strengths and weaknesses, and you will have achievements and failures. You must learn to accept those realities. This is what self-esteem is all about - truth in yourself.

Those who always languish are never happy. Those that blame everybody else for their failures also never get ahead. They are consumed with negativity.

It is important not to let your mistakes or failures overpower you, and spoil your happiness. You need to accept your mistakes and get over it. Any time you don't accept your mistakes, you lose some of your self-esteem.

Many people gain a lot of happiness from their accomplishments. Their self-esteem rises; they feel like they can accomplish anything. However, the same self-esteem can drop when that person is rejected or makes a mistake. This could cause a person to feel unhappy and unwanted, and can eat away at his self-esteem until he is very unhappy. It'll also influence other realms of his life.

To be able to improve your self-esteem, you have to be fair to yourself. Don't beat yourself up when something goes wrong. It can result in depression and overwhelming guilt. A mistake or failure can't be changed, however it can be learned from. Everybody should judge himself or herself fairly. Beating up on oneself leads to defeat, and destroys self-esteem.






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