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Many of us live and act as if our emotions are out of control. We are saying things like, "You made me indignant" or "I feel nervous around my administrator" as if these feelings occur outside of our control. Some feelings are indeed out of control,eg the fear one would feel if all of a sudden faced up to by a burglar. Or, the discouragement one might feel if fired from a job unexpectedly. I don't suggest that it is always possible to be in a condition of joy irrespective of what happens in the world. But we do suggest that we have much more influence over our psychological state than most folks think.
How many emotions do you usually experience during the course of a day? How many can you name? Some people report experiencing only a few emotions on a regular basis, for example contentment, fear and hate. Still others may restrict themselves by outing all their feelings into categories. They say, "I feel nice" or "I feel bad" and this is the limits of their emotional awareness.
There are others who have got a wide range of emotions available to them. On any given day they may experience many emotions. They may distinguish among happiness, joy, ecstasy, mirth, wonderment, delight, and such like. They may experience resentment, annoyance, disappointment, defensiveness, rage, etc...Their range of emotions is in depth.
We think that having a large range of emotional responses available to us makes us more flexible. The more we can distinguish among and access a spread of mental states, the more prepared we will be to meet the dynamic demands of life that we take upon ourselves.
It can take a little time to develop emotional pliability. When we have been living our lives for years only being aware of one or two states, it can take time and a large amount of effort to break out of this rut. This is where NLP, or Neuro Linguistic Programming, is a useful tool because it teaches you to develop emotional adaptability by identifying and accessing a multitude of states.
Start by making an inventory of a wide variety of emotional states you require in your inventory. List them. Outline them. Then, find precise examples of them in your private history. Remember those times and realize you have access to a broad and deep range of experiences. Then, plan to consolidate them into your present life. This is the key to building your emotional vocabulary.
How many emotions do you usually experience during the course of a day? How many can you name? Some people report experiencing only a few emotions on a regular basis, for example contentment, fear and hate. Still others may restrict themselves by outing all their feelings into categories. They say, "I feel nice" or "I feel bad" and this is the limits of their emotional awareness.
There are others who have got a wide range of emotions available to them. On any given day they may experience many emotions. They may distinguish among happiness, joy, ecstasy, mirth, wonderment, delight, and such like. They may experience resentment, annoyance, disappointment, defensiveness, rage, etc...Their range of emotions is in depth.
We think that having a large range of emotional responses available to us makes us more flexible. The more we can distinguish among and access a spread of mental states, the more prepared we will be to meet the dynamic demands of life that we take upon ourselves.
It can take a little time to develop emotional pliability. When we have been living our lives for years only being aware of one or two states, it can take time and a large amount of effort to break out of this rut. This is where NLP, or Neuro Linguistic Programming, is a useful tool because it teaches you to develop emotional adaptability by identifying and accessing a multitude of states.
Start by making an inventory of a wide variety of emotional states you require in your inventory. List them. Outline them. Then, find precise examples of them in your private history. Remember those times and realize you have access to a broad and deep range of experiences. Then, plan to consolidate them into your present life. This is the key to building your emotional vocabulary.
About the Author:
Jed Riley is an able NLP specialist and health article writer with several years of experience.
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