Saturday, March 7, 2015

What To Know About Codependency

By Leslie Ball


There are many different types of relationships. Codependent ones are recognized as dysfunctional. This is because they include a person who support or enables the addiction, poor mental health, underachievement, immaturity or irresponsibility of another individual. A major sign of codependency is excessive reliance on others for approval and identity.

The concept of this is believed to have derived from the Alcoholics Anonymous process. During this process, it was recognized that the issues is not just the addict but also the family and friends of the advice. The co-dependent belief goes hand in hand with an older psychoanalytic belief of passive dependent personalities attaching themselves to strong personalities. Dependency is a term used frequently in literal on psychology.

There are different behaviors and symptoms associated with this. Because it has a grassroots origin, the main definition for this is excepted to vary depending on the source. It can generally be described as situational and subclinical, or episodic behavior that is like that of dependent personality disorders.

Broadly speaking, a co-dependent is one who is unable to function from her or his own self. The behaviors and thinking of those persons is organized around that of another person, substance or process. People who are addicted to drugs, sex, gambling or other things might therefore be considered codependent. A raw definition of it suggests that a person must be psychologically or physically addicted and the other person is psychologically dependent on the behavior. Sometimes people use the terminology dysfunctional family rather than attaching co-dependent to classify the disease.

Showing feelings or behaviors that are caring does not make a person fall under this category. The term is mostly reserved for those who display an excessive amount of caring that becomes unhealthy. Healthy caregiving, and even empathy, are done by consciously, by choice. Co-dependents are different because most of their actions are done on impulse and without real consideration for possible consequences and sacrifices that are being made.

Some professionals, including scholars and treatment providers, suggest that this behavior is an act of over-responsibility. This is what takes place when positive actions go awry. It is important that in relationships there is a balance between responsibility to self and responsibility to others.

This is recognized as a disease in which people have lost sight of themselves. In many of these cases, people give less priority to their own needs and are instead preoccupied with those of others. These relationships typically involve issues around intimacy, high reactivity, denial, dependency, boundaries, dysfunctional communication and control. Often there is some imbalance between the two parties involved, with one person being abusive or completely in control, or enabling or supporting the bad behavior of the other person.

Some common symptoms to look for in these cases: intense and unstable interpersonal relationships, low self-worth, denial, external reference, dishonesty, and extreme desire to be accepted. People might be incapable of being alone, have feelings of boredom or emptiness on a frequent basis, require affection, and put their needs under those of another. This kind of pattern can develop in any type of relationship: work, family, romantic, peer or community, friendship, and more. People who notice these unhealthy unions are encouraged to get professional support.




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