Saturday, March 24, 2018

Why You Ought To Say Rape Doesnt Define Me And Move On

By Diane Carter


People go through different horrors in life. While some folks give in and let their tragedy affect their characters, others are bold enough to speak out and let people know that they are not affected by things they cannot change. If you have gone through a traumatizing experience on the hands of rapists, below are the reasons you should stand strong and say that rape doesnt define me.

First, it was not your fault. There are things that people do willingly while others just happen without their consent. So, it would be insane if you beat yourself for the last of your time for something that you cannot even change. Hence if you are a victim or a survivor, ensure that you live a positive life and ensure that what transpired that time, does not affect you.

Also, if you keep thinking about what happened, you will always be shameful, and therefore you are not going to perform well in anything. Therefore, make certain that you do not let the occurrence determine your personality or how you think. There are people who have many things in their hearts such that they cannot be bold to stand and speak in front of others.

Some people were conceived as a result of rape. And yes, they live as if they are not normal people. Their lives are a total mess, and they think that they are unwanted in this world. To have a positive mindset, read the books and the articles of people who have gone through the same experience you are in. This gives you the confidence to move on.

If you want folks to respect, you start by respecting yourself first. This is to say that how you act and speak determines how folks will behave towards you. Thus, if you look depressed because you were raped sometime back, then people will be thinking that you are a victim and every time they see you they will be thinking of rape.

By accepting the incidence affecting your well being, you are letting the criminals achieve their goal. The main reason people rape others is to inflict pain on them for the rest of their lives. This could happen as a result of revenge. Also, the only way to make them feel guilty instead of heroes it acting as if nothing changed in your life.

If you accept that the world people occupy is full of tragedies, then you will have all the reasons to overcome whatever happened. Remember, there are other tragedies that do not heal, but people still move on. For example, people lose their loved ones and children, but they still find reasons to live.

Finally, it is evident that getting sexual assault is a traumatizing thing despise of whether it was a person you loved or not. However, it is not the problem that will dress you but how you treat that problem. If you realize you have many things to smile about than those you have to feel sorry about, then your life is likely to be determined by your mindset.




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