Saturday, June 16, 2018

Its A Fact That Rape Doesnt Define Me

By Larry Johnson


The most traumatic, stressful and worrying memory for anyone could be something which is very disturbing for their soul and rape is one of the traumatic situations. Its not easy to discuss this issue but you have to keep believing that no matter what happened or how bad it was, but still rape doesnt define me otherwise the whole perspective will change.

It may be the case that he took you out for a date and that night wound up with taking without end the most valuable thing from you. It may be the case that even after the episode you would need to encounter a similar individual again particularly in the event that he was your companion or associate.

This is a genuine story of a young lady and after that episode she began abstaining from going in grounds eating corridors and rec center since that individual used to be there and she needed to stay away from him as much as she could. Her life was simply spinning around how to maintain a strategic distance from that assaulter and she began to bargain her timetables and quality in light of that individual. After she got assaulted she was not able trust men around her.

There comes a time when you start blaming yourself for everything that happened to you. You would avoid to face the same individual again at any cost which in return makes you feel more depressed, lonely and sad. Keep remembering it was not something you wanted to happen at all.

There was a time when that girl started avoiding men and she did not wanted to get closer to men and there was a constant feeling that you are not clean because he raped you. You will face tough times questioning your own self that how did you even let this whole thing happen in the first place. At that time she decided she needs a break from everything.

That girl began going to the places she was avoiding before and decided to go to gym where he used to come and then started facing that person rather than running away from that place because she wanted to show him that she's strong enough and can deal with this situation. All these little steps were very helpful for her to get her life back on track.

That was the time when she finally decided to help other victims who were going through this situation because it gave her feeling that by helping others she can actually take revenge from her assaulter and showing him that her life has not stopped because of this incident and she isn't a weak person.

It can take a very long time for you to recount your story after such an episode yet you ought to never feel embarrassed about yourself since it was not something that happened as a result of you or you were not to blame. You will experience numerous stages of recovery and there will be a time when you would start to learn and trust others all over again. Assault can't characterize your identity it was only a terrible incident or even of your life however its over now.




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