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Is there someone in your life you would like to have a better relationship with, a co-worker, a partner, a loved one, a mate or neighbor?
Maybe you are thinking that there is little you can do to modify this, after all it is the other man or woman who's the issue isn't it?
Whilst there may be hidden truth in that, isn't it entertaining that not everyone appears to have an identical issue with him or her as we do? What that suggests is we will be able to likely have a more solid relationship with them than we now do.
So what can we do in just 5 simple steps?
- Stop judging others, or asking why are they doing that, I had never do that. Most people will admit to this behavior pattern, including me
- Hear them without disrupting, completing their sentences, correcting them, or pondering all of the other stuff you might be doing instead
- Learn from the best sales folks, who use the adage you have 2 ears and 1 mouth, use them in that proportion
- Find 1 nice thing to say of them and really mean it, people know at some level when you're being false
- Talk at the same pace and pitch as they do, if you talk fast and they talk slow you?ll find it tougher to communicate.
What if you're talking about relationships not conducted in real life or over the phone? Maybe you communicate through e-mail or are connected from social media.
If you do communicate only in written form (even online), and can pick up the telephone, then do so. It's far simpler to form a relationship that way, it's amazing how folks become more real when we connect to them in real life or hear their voice.
If you can only write:
- Don't launch straight into the content
- Do refer to a point of agreement during the past
- Do believe that they can't most likely know all that you do or what's in your head, so what else would they have to know
- Do think what you want from the other party, and ask them politely for it, once again they don't seem to be mind readers, and yes they are living in their own world
- Don't copy the whole of the world or attempt to point score, it'll reflect badly on you as much if not more so.
Finally, head the advisory alert passed down by parents, 'if you've not got anything nice to say, say nothing ', and consider the same rule applies for Tweets, mails and Facebook posts.
Maybe you are thinking that there is little you can do to modify this, after all it is the other man or woman who's the issue isn't it?
Whilst there may be hidden truth in that, isn't it entertaining that not everyone appears to have an identical issue with him or her as we do? What that suggests is we will be able to likely have a more solid relationship with them than we now do.
So what can we do in just 5 simple steps?
- Stop judging others, or asking why are they doing that, I had never do that. Most people will admit to this behavior pattern, including me
- Hear them without disrupting, completing their sentences, correcting them, or pondering all of the other stuff you might be doing instead
- Learn from the best sales folks, who use the adage you have 2 ears and 1 mouth, use them in that proportion
- Find 1 nice thing to say of them and really mean it, people know at some level when you're being false
- Talk at the same pace and pitch as they do, if you talk fast and they talk slow you?ll find it tougher to communicate.
What if you're talking about relationships not conducted in real life or over the phone? Maybe you communicate through e-mail or are connected from social media.
If you do communicate only in written form (even online), and can pick up the telephone, then do so. It's far simpler to form a relationship that way, it's amazing how folks become more real when we connect to them in real life or hear their voice.
If you can only write:
- Don't launch straight into the content
- Do refer to a point of agreement during the past
- Do believe that they can't most likely know all that you do or what's in your head, so what else would they have to know
- Do think what you want from the other party, and ask them politely for it, once again they don't seem to be mind readers, and yes they are living in their own world
- Don't copy the whole of the world or attempt to point score, it'll reflect badly on you as much if not more so.
Finally, head the advisory alert passed down by parents, 'if you've not got anything nice to say, say nothing ', and consider the same rule applies for Tweets, mails and Facebook posts.
About the Author:
Andrew Wilkin is an Excellent NLP Expert, Licensed Hypnotherapist and the deviser of Dream Timeline, a free site to help people visualise their dreams using online vision boards.
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