Sunday, July 10, 2011

Online Life Coaching - Healing Relationships with Shadow Work

By Jason Lincoln Jeffers


Our shadow gets projected onto others when we don't want to face whatever is too painful to accept in ourselves. And so we do everything we can to keep these traits, behaviors, or issues out of sight. By ignoring them, we act is if they are not there. But not only does this empower them, these same repressed angers, hurts, or shameful behaviors will get projected onto our partner in the forms of blame, judgment, and excessive criticism.

If you're in a relationship now and there are things about your partner that you can't stand, then those same things can also be found somewhere within yourself that you are trying to hide. For example, if you are always accusing your partner of being greedy, you may want to take a deep look within and reflect on the times in your life when you have also been greedy. If you've been accusing your partner of being lazy, then think back to the last time you were lazy. Write down every occasion you can remember in your life when you exhibited the same exact qualities that you are hating in your partner. This is called "shadow work" and it is very helpful in healing relationships.

The law of attraction guarantees that our shadow projections will return "like for like." Therefore, we will naturally attract to us in relationships a partner who will also be projecting their own shadow "junk" on to us. They may be overly critical of us. If this is your situation, then an online spiritual life coach who does shadow work can help you to become aware of your own shadow projections so that you can face them and heal them.

Transcending your shadow takes some time and effort because most people have many shadows and have been keeping them well hidden since childhood. Keeping the "skeletons in the closet" and "taking it to the grave" will only amplify your dysfunctional behavior and prevent you from evolving into a conscious being. Only by acknowledging and resolving your childhood traumas will you be able to dissolve your shadows and subsequently stop projecting your repressed "psychic trash" onto your mate.

Transcending your shadow is a necessary part of your journey toward Self-realization. An online life coach who also an expert in shadow work can help you to discover your primal wounds and work toward healing them. Afterwards, your shadow projections will naturally dissolve. As a result, your relationship with your partner should improve dramatically.




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