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We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm fed up with hearing your complaints and worries
2. If you would just act on what I tell you, everything would work out for you
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I don't know how to be supportive, so, just do this
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
You suddenly turn around because your small, screaming child is being assaulted by three older children on a playground. Your immediate reaction causes an action for you to run over, take them by the hand and immediately remove them from this negative situation. You saved their "self" from further demolition by holding, hugging and helping them to feel safe. They is now protected and secure once again.
As adults, we have all been in negative situations in life, and most of us learn to pull away from them on our own. An emotionally healthy adult will avoid the next similar circumstance. But, for many, they will stay in a bad situation, hoping that it will go away on its own without them having to do anything.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Avoiding people that are negative toward you
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
We have all said or heard it said to us that, 'You have to love your 'self' first', but we really have no clue on how to go about acting on it. When a person is upset, overwhelmed or angry, this type of comment is often viewed as an attack. Neither person really knows how to begin the change necessary to correction the problem.
People usually have the intension of trying to get the person to do something about their situation. Loving yourself first is a well meaning phrase, but, without the proper training, most people don't have any idea what it takes to actually love yourself. Saying something like this to someone can cause them to feel unsupported and they must go it alone with no idea how.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm fed up with hearing your complaints and worries
2. If you would just act on what I tell you, everything would work out for you
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I don't know how to be supportive, so, just do this
Psychics often hear from people when they feel at the end of their rope and in deep trouble. They feel rejected by their friends; they are desperate for someone to help them feel better by listening and giving them compassionate advice.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
You suddenly turn around because your small, screaming child is being assaulted by three older children on a playground. Your immediate reaction causes an action for you to run over, take them by the hand and immediately remove them from this negative situation. You saved their "self" from further demolition by holding, hugging and helping them to feel safe. They is now protected and secure once again.
As adults, we have all been in negative situations in life, and most of us learn to pull away from them on our own. An emotionally healthy adult will avoid the next similar circumstance. But, for many, they will stay in a bad situation, hoping that it will go away on its own without them having to do anything.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Avoiding people that are negative toward you
2. Take a class and learn something that you have always dreamed of
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
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