Thursday, January 31, 2013

Four Strategies to Peace and Happiness

By Hal Neff


Most people think they'd be happy if they had more "stuff"or more money. A better car or perhaps a better property sounds great to most people. But more money and "things" don't necessarily make you happier.

Having a car might make it simpler to be happy if it means you don't have to walk everywhere. Having more money makes it easier to be happy if you currently can't pay your bills. So these things can remove some of the obstacles to being happy, however, they don't truly give happiness.

There are four things that do bring happiness, and the best part is the fact that they are free!

Consider these ideas:

1 . Someone to love. Everybody wants somebody to love. If you don't believe you have somebody to love, go find someone. The earth is filled with people that feel unloved so it should not take you long to find a volunteer. All of us need someone to cherish and care for.

Thankfully, the people and animals we truly love tend to love us back.

2 . Something to do. There are a lot of wealthy individuals that are miserable because they don't devote their time doing something that they really like. Life is about doing and experiencing things. If you spend a whole day doing things you like to do, it is pretty difficult to be miserable.

Find means to spend time in activities that are significant to you. Make a list and start incorporating those things into your life on a day-to-day basis. If you can get work that you're passionate about, so much the better for you!

3. Anything to look forward to. When the only thing you have to look forward to is more of the very same, dull routine, it is difficult to be happy. Everyone should really have something to look forward to in the near future.

Think of something you would love to do or see. Perhaps it is something as simple as a yoga class. If you like going to yoga on Thursday nights, it makes your Mondays a bit easier when you know that yoga is looming in your future.

4. Using downtime joyfully. Perhaps your greatest problem is dealing with downtime. If you are bored, lonely, anxious, or sad and do not have something to do, it's easy to turn to less than appropriate actions. These actions not only accomplish nothing good, but they can also make your life more difficult.

This could include stuff like watching television, browsing the web, eating when you aren't hungry, purchasing things you do not really want or need, drinking, drugs, serial dating, and more. These kinds of actions do nothing to fix the actual problem and can create more problems.

Coping with negative feelings successfully makes life easier. Read something worthwhile, go for a walk, meet up with a friend and do something enjoyable, make a new acquaintance, or work on a hobby. Replace your negative behaviors with new, more beneficial habits that bring you closer to the good life you imagine for you and your family.

Learn to take a moment and pause before you go on autopilot. If you are going for the fridge and you're not hungry, just simply STOP. Ask yourself why you're doing this and what other action you could take.

If you think you're unhappy because you do not have enough money or toys, you're probably mistaken.

Having meaningful relationships, something to do, something to look forward to, and not shooting yourself in the foot are the keys. Find methods to incorporate these ideas into your life and you'll be a lot happier!




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