Wednesday, June 29, 2011

How to Get Over Your First Love

By Kevin Kurgansky


Getting over a break up is hard; however, getting over the first breakup is definitely the hardest. The reason it's so much harder than all the other breakups is because it's your first love. So it's not just any old regular break up for us, it's a break up with the person who first showed us what it means to love.

You probably spent most of your time together and now you have a difficult time picturing what your life's going to be like without them. In fact, just the thought of losing them is terrifying. You might have a hard time believing that you'll ever be happy again. But if you follow the 3 tips below, I guarantee that you'll be able to get over your first love and move on with your life.

1. Do not talk to your ex for the next month

You can't truly get over them if you guys are still friends. You have to cut all contact with each other while you attempt to get over it and move on. I know that it's hard, it feels you're suddenly losing your best friend. However, this is the first step that you absolutely MUST take if you want to get over your ex.

2. Make an effort to grow and become a better person.

A relationship is not a mistake if you're able to learn something from the experience. Think about what happened and see what you can learn from it. This is an opportunity for you to see things from a new perspective and change for the better. Remember that the more you learn and grow, the more satisfying your future relationships will be.

3. Don't be afraid of loving again

Just because your first relationship didn't work doesn't mean that all your future relationships are going to fail too. Keep in mind that every person you're going to meet is going to be different. Therefore, every relationship will play out differently too. Don't project your past into the future and assume that things are going to go bad. I know it may feel like you're doing it to protect yourself from getting hurt; but in reality, you're only hurting yourself. Let go of any negative reactions you had from your relationship and put them in the past. Make a choice to be optimistic about the future. Open yourself up to love.




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