Saturday, December 24, 2011

How to greatly improve your communication

By Gerald Tynan


Anybody can improve their communication skills. There is much more to learn about conversation and relationships than any of us could realize. You'll find talk shows; radio programs; clubs focused on public speaking; ordinary conversations; whatever type of interaction you select. Certain rules always apply when it comes to interaction through words, and it is all in the attitude.

1. That which you know.

You need to be clear by what you are. Talking in more detail about a subject you know very little about can become embarrassing. In the same manner, its smart to be conscious of your personal strengths and weaknesses. Playing on your strengths is essential in all kinds of relationships.

2. Listening

Asking them questions is a superb way to begin a conversation as long as they are not too intrusive. But don't forget to hear the answers! Some people simply pass from one question to the next like an interviewer. Remember, conversation is really a two way process. Your next remark should arise from exactly what the other person has stated in response to your original question.

3. Humility

All of us get some things wrong, and often it is important to acknowledge them. Obviously, you shouldn't continually be putting yourself down, and there is no reason to draw attention to your bad points. For those who have said something out of line or unnatural, simply apologize and move forward.

4. Eye Contact

When conversing with one person, eye contact is key - but don't stare. Staring will be felt by aggression through the other person. If you're speaking with someone in a meeting or perhaps a gathering, remember to move your gaze round the group to include everybody.

5. Kidding around

Some humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse, boredom while you are speaking. It wakes people up, and laughing will make them feel happier. However, there's nothing worse than the usual joke that falls flat. Practice your jokes on the safe audience such as your loved ones before adding these to a prepared speech.

6. Be interested in others

As it pertains down to it, the first priority for most of us is our own selves, followed by the folks that we feel fit in with us. It will take some wisdom to become truly interested in an individual who is extremely different without attempting to put them down or prove our own way is better. How can you connect with people of a different race, nationality or sexual orientation? Can you be interested without having to be intrusive or critical?

7. Me, myself and I

Some people talk about themselves until others go to sleep or run screaming in the room. You're not one of those people ... right?

8. Having a smile

A grin, like eye contact, can make an immediate connection with another person. It can make them feel great and establishes friendly relations. Don't hold back on smiling - you have nothing to get rid of.

9. A role model

There must be at least one or two people in your lifetime who really impress you with the method in which they create a speech or relate to other people. Rather than be a slave to wondering the reason why you can't be exactly the same way, watch the way they actually do it. Act like them and pretty soon, you could have the same success.

10. Preparation

Regardless if you are making a speech, some preparation is always worthwhile. For speaking in public, make notes and practice your speech. If it's a party, ask the host a few questions about the individuals that will be there. Remember, preparation creates effortless communication.




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