Friday, April 12, 2013

Top 5 Tips to Staying Positive

By Ayman de Meijer


Although sexless marriages may appear on be on the outside to most people unhappy and un fulfilling - for many couples living this life this is not so. These couples have learnt how to stay happy/positive in a sexless marriage by finding other ways to be intimate with each other.Most of the time it is not a subconscious decision - over time couples find that their sex life begins to decline due to varying reasons such as routine, caring for children, working long hours and lost libido. For these couples their relationship may be totally fulfilling in every other way - but there just is no or very little physical intimacy by the way of sex.

Choose what you focus on,Recognize you are in control of where your mind's energy is spent. Make a determined effort to focus on positive things and don't allow yourself to dwell on negative emotions or thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively, come up with ways to redirect your thought patterns, e.g. by focusing on a goal, happy memory or something you are grateful for.Positive affirmations.Plant positive seeds in your mind's soil. Identify positive affirmations you want to believe, e.g., 'I have the power to change my circumstances' or 'I am a valuable person', and repeat them to yourself whenever you can. Soon, you will find yourself acting on what you allow yourself to believe.

Although some couples may not experience the physical intimacy of sex - the emotional intimacy for them may be equal to or much deeper than sex. The sense of closeness and unbreakable bond that develops between a couple who have deep emotional intimacy can make a marriage with no sex not seem a problem. When a couple has a strong deep connection on an emotional level - all other problems or issues seem to pale in comparison.

What are you grateful for,Keep a journal of things you are grateful for. Take the time each day to jot down what you have valued from your day or what you are thankful for. Do the same about yourself. What are your personal strengths? What do you like about yourself? Focus on and remind yourself of these reasons to be happy everyday and you're sure to chase those negative vibes away.

Be inspired,There are sure to be people who have experienced the same negative events or circumstances that you might have encountered. If you find your particular experiences hard to deal with, buy a book or audio cassette of someone who has walked in your shoes but overcome their problems. Realize there is always hope in any situation and be inspired to go beyond your circumstances.

Reminisce.Think about times in your life when you have felt the happiest or most positive. Allow yourself moments to reminisce about these times and put a smile back on your face. Believe that more of these times can be created in your future."Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to those who love Him" James 1:12

Bring them a little positivity.What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can't win them all!

The first point on how to Stay Positive throughout life, or your next storm, is to be PREPARED. "Before anything else, preparation is the key to success." - Alexander Graham Bell. Although my family and I lost power in our house, we did not need to panic because my mother prepared all the materials we will needed to survive through the night and throughout the week. My mother was ready for the storm! In order to stay positive throughout life, you must be prepared for what life has to offer you. You and I both know, life is difficult because there are so many different challenges and obstacles we must overcome on a day to day basis. But ladies and gentlemen, if you prepare for these challenges, you will be ready for action!

What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know! The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today. Quote by, Charles W. Eliot,When life hands you a lemon, are you prepared to make lemonade? Try staying positive when everything around you is negative. It is essential for your health and well being. More importantly, the way you think, feel and act determines the outcome of your experience. So, why not make it a great experience by guiding your attitude toward one that is positive.

The final point on how to Stay Positive throughout life, or your next storm, is to have MIND CONTROL! There are going to be times in your life where it is so bad that you will start to become depressed. Not having heat in your house during the winter could slowly alter your mood and cause frustration. Many people fall to their emotions and remain confused and frustrated about a situation. However, in order to Stay Positive throughout life, you must always keep a positive attitude. You must be able to quickly flipped the switch and look at the bright side of things. You must tell yourself that my cup is not half empty, rather it is overflowing. In order to accomplish this, you must have MIND CONTROL.Here are some tips on how to use mind control during your next storm,Keep with you an object that immediately puts a smile on your face.Collect quotes that brighten up your day.Create a poem or song that you can recite to keep you focused.




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