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The days after a relationship ends may drag along and make days seem like weeks. Your ex's feelings about the time apart and perception will be a deciding factor in what your first contact will feel like to them. Even so, you will need to contact them sooner or later if your intention is to get them back. This first contact is important.
Too early would be a mistake. Contacting them too early will almost certainly appear desperate and could convince them they made the right choice by breaking up.
If you contact your ex to late it is possible to give the impression that you didn't value the relationship, and that you have since experienced no wish to try and salvage it.
You don't want to appear clingy by contacting you ex to often and will most likely push them towards moving on sooner.
Not enough contact, or if you wait a long time in between contact, and you risk making them feel as though you've gotten over them.
If you are worried that your ex will move on and can't wait, there is something you can do that will let them know you still want to be with them but are willing to work for it. This will let them know you are serious and care about them without being clingy or desperate.
Pick a method of contact that is short and low-pressure. Make sure that you are not drawn into a long debate, as you are not trying to reconcile yet, but instead you are going to ensure there will be a chance to reconcile.
Call you ex up so they can hear from your voice how sincere you are. Meeting at a coffee shop before work. This will ensure the encounter has a time limit and allow for a casual, face to face meeting.
Email, although not ideal, is an easy way to keep the conversation brief. A handwritten letter is an alright method, it is more personal and people enjoy getting mail that isn't a bill.
So now what? It's time to lay out your plan. Keep it simple, no blame, no excuses, and no need to be very specific. Instead, say something like:
"I want another chance for us. I am going to work on myself and I will talk to you again as a better, happier, healthier, etc.. individual that is ready for a relationship, and I will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to rebuild a relationship with you."
No need for details, that is all you need to say. If you are telling them by phone or saying it to them in person, end with "Just to let you know." then switch topics. The point is to let them know to keep the door open.
Now put some effort in and really do it. You will keep yourself occupied and have less thoughts of what your ex is up to right now. Also, you will be making your own life better and who wouldn't want a piece of that?
Too early would be a mistake. Contacting them too early will almost certainly appear desperate and could convince them they made the right choice by breaking up.
If you contact your ex to late it is possible to give the impression that you didn't value the relationship, and that you have since experienced no wish to try and salvage it.
You don't want to appear clingy by contacting you ex to often and will most likely push them towards moving on sooner.
Not enough contact, or if you wait a long time in between contact, and you risk making them feel as though you've gotten over them.
If you are worried that your ex will move on and can't wait, there is something you can do that will let them know you still want to be with them but are willing to work for it. This will let them know you are serious and care about them without being clingy or desperate.
Pick a method of contact that is short and low-pressure. Make sure that you are not drawn into a long debate, as you are not trying to reconcile yet, but instead you are going to ensure there will be a chance to reconcile.
Call you ex up so they can hear from your voice how sincere you are. Meeting at a coffee shop before work. This will ensure the encounter has a time limit and allow for a casual, face to face meeting.
Email, although not ideal, is an easy way to keep the conversation brief. A handwritten letter is an alright method, it is more personal and people enjoy getting mail that isn't a bill.
So now what? It's time to lay out your plan. Keep it simple, no blame, no excuses, and no need to be very specific. Instead, say something like:
"I want another chance for us. I am going to work on myself and I will talk to you again as a better, happier, healthier, etc.. individual that is ready for a relationship, and I will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to rebuild a relationship with you."
No need for details, that is all you need to say. If you are telling them by phone or saying it to them in person, end with "Just to let you know." then switch topics. The point is to let them know to keep the door open.
Now put some effort in and really do it. You will keep yourself occupied and have less thoughts of what your ex is up to right now. Also, you will be making your own life better and who wouldn't want a piece of that?
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