Thursday, November 15, 2012

How to Build Your Self Confidence

By Agustin M. McKeown


People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving what they want in life, or dealing with any situation that they may have to face. They have an aura of self-confidence and self-assurance, which is apparent to others. People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.In contrast, there are many people who are reasonably talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.

Brian Tracy, in his remarkable self confidence program, The Science of Self-Confidence, outlines the importance of self confidence in every area of your life. The ability to achieve your goals relies heavily upon your belief in yourself. Whether you belief you can or whether you believe you can't, either way you will be right. What you believe and what you feel certain about is what you act upon - or what you fail to act upon.

We all need this sense of certainty in the things we attempt to do. Certainty makes us feel confident in our ability to deal with a situation. Without certainty we tend to hesitate as we are unfamiliar with what might happen. As human beings we ALL need a sense of certainty. If you lack that sense of certainty you will remain immobilized by your own lack of confidence.

Self-Confidence - like everything else - is a choice. You can CHOOSE to be more Self-Confident. At those times when you feel insecure, uncertain, or powerless, remind yourself that you're in charge and you can choose how you feel. You can choose to feel self-assured, certain, decisive, and positive. Here are seven ways to adopt an attitude of Self-Confidence:

To be a confident person, ACT like a confident person. Think of someone who appears to be brimming with confidence and BE like them.Ask yourself: "What can I do to feel more confident?" Choose one thing you can do today to increase your feelings of Self-Confidence and do it. Take the first step. "A journey of 1000 miles..."Look your best - even if you work at home, even if you're a stay-at-home mom, even if there doesn't appear to be any real reason to care about your appearance. It's a way to respect yourself and you'll be ready to answer the door when opportunity knocks.

Because belief is just a thought you keep thinking, keep thinking thoughts such as: "I AM a confident person. I radiate Self-Confidence. I project an aura of Self-Confidence." Think and FEEL these kinds of affirmations and your Self-Confidence will go through the roof! Focus on what you love and appreciate and value about yourself. Once you get focused on your positive aspects, you'll realize how great you truly are! Notice when you DO feel confident. Maybe someone gave you a compliment, thanked you for a job well done, asked you for a date. FEEL the satisfaction, the pleasure, the confidence. The more you FEEL it, the more Self-Confidence will become your dominant vibration.

Your ability to pursue your goals, to just do it and to succeed is directly related to your level of confidence in yourself and your own ability to be effective. Regardless of what you want to be, do or have in your life - you will need self confidence. Without that inner certainty in yourself, you simply won't have the necessary backup from within to be truly effective. Confident people radiate their certainty and they are attractive in more than one way. Self confidence is the key to turning yourself ON. Only when you learn to trust and believe in yourself can you really get the most out of yourself and activate your ability to create and direct your own life.




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