Saturday, September 3, 2011

A Way To Build Up Our NLP Skills

By Amelia Klein


Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers a whole array of strategies and techniques for bringing about change in both your life and the lives of those you love and everyone else too. If you practise your %LINK1% on a regular basis, then you will start to find that the quality of your relationships and your communication will improve greatly. Moreover, your NLP skills will help you to be able to achieve things better and faster.

One of the things you will often hear talked about with respect to NLP skills is resource states. What if you could wave a metaphorical magic wand and feel any way you want to feel, whenever you like. Now that would be something worth having!

You realize that there are situations when we wish that we could act in a different way. You will maybe identify with men and women who have problems with stage fright. We do not actually have to be in the situation. Merely thinking about it can easily bring us out into a cold sweat. We recall occasions when we have been stressed in front of others previously, and we might also use our imaginations to think about all the things that might go awry. And you know what, we are not wrong

You can notice from the example that we actually practise getting into bad resource states, such as feeling anxious, on a regular basis. Despite the fact that these states are not especially useful, we evidently know well the practice of state induction and there is no reason why we should not utilize the same method to generate good resource states.

So, what sort of emotional state would be useful in this situation? The choice is yours, but it would probably be useful to be confident and relaxed. There have probably been numerous other occasions when you have experienced these feelings before. Just close your eyes and think back to when you last felt relaxed and confident. Maybe it was yesterday or perhaps years ago. Recall everything about it, from how you stood, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you saw and what you heard at the time.

Now, if you are imagining that you are unable to do this merely because you have not felt this way previously, then envision how an individual who is relaxed and self-confident would stand, breathe and feel. Possibly this is an individual you esteem for being this way. When you've reached the ideal state, exaggerate it to make it as dramatic and pleasing as it can be. This is the place where one of your other %LINK1% comes into play. This is referred to as anchoring. In this situation, an anchor is a trigger for the state change. Thus, when you are fully experiencing the state such as calm and confident, that you want to bring back at some point, you might, by way of example, scratch the back of your neck or squeeze together the thumb and index finger of your left hand; it is your preference. In this fashion, the preferred action becomes an integral part of the calm and confident state. So, when you do the trigger action again, for example, as you think about or enter the situation in which you would previously have been stressed, you obviously enter the desired resource state.

You are most likely now recognizing the value of practising the %LINK1% of producing resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the benefit of perfecting these skills is that the ensuing states will significantly enhance your communication skills and have a good impact on the other individuals that you come into contact with.




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