Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Learning How to Handle Loss in Your Life

By Burton Rager


Death is a hard subject to discuss. It's even more difficult to face, particularly if you've no idea what's waiting "on the other side". It is a general belief that all good folk go to heaven, while exceedingly bad folks, like Hitler, Stalin and Bin Laden go to hell. But if there is not any certainty, the potential can be quite frighteningAs well as an unknown destination after death, there's a lot of other things which make death hard to deal with. Death means separation; separation from loved ones, from things one enjoys and well...everything.

It also suggests suffering. The majority leave this life through discomfort and suffering. It is not often one just closes their eyes, breathes their last breath and is gone without experiencing some form of suffering. Even if one dies quickly in an accident, there can be horrifying moments just prior to that which make their dying experience anything but nice.

One or two years back, my first partner was assessed with a quickly metastasizing brain tumor and given only a few months to live. When I asked him if he was scared to die he claimed, "No, I am not frightened to die but I'm extremely scared of the process." That sounded right to me. He anticipated, with great happiness, what awaited him on the opposite side of death but knew the road he must take to get there would be filled with great agony and suffering "and that was. Separation, suffering and the great unknown of death make it comprehensible why folk fear it so. Yet, God's Word tells us death is something we need not fear, not if we "live" right. How we live makes all of the difference in how we die.

If one chooses to live this life, for and by one's self, without God, then by their own choice, when their life ends, the only source of energy and strength they'll have to draw upon is their own. Unfortunately , they may quickly discover their personal reservoir has nothing to offer them and worse, they haven't any ability on their lonesome to get to heaven.

Jesus is the only way to heaven.

In other words, death does not have the last say. For all Followers of Christ, death isn't last. It is merely a entrance to our real home, our ultimate destination, the place we were created for. In our unceasing home, all suffering, sadness, pain and illness will end. We will experience joy and pleasure like we have never known. Death, then, can basically become something we anticipate rather than fear due to where it will take us.

Even the method of dying loses its frightening grip when one walks that journey with God, instead of on their lonesome.




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